“It is only when we silent the blaring sounds of our daily existence that we can finally hear the whispers of truth that life reveals to us, as it stands knocking on the doorsteps of our hearts.”
– K.T. Jong
I’ll tell you a story.
Around three months ago, I was coming home from college.
My phone was switched off because of low battery.
And, it was hot afternoon and I was tired.
When I rang the bell of my home, no one opened. I waited for few minutes and I realized that no one is at home.
Ah, they must have gone out. I also realized that I don’t have the keys.
Fortunately, there was chair in the balcony.
Since I was exhausted, I settled myself over there.
And, I sat there. But there was no phone to connect with.
No Facebook, no Twitter, no Instagram, no Whatsapp, no calls.
And 5 minutes passed, 10 minutes passed and I started feeling uncomfortable. Really.
We’re not used to this, you know? We’re the hyper-connected generation. We have status to share and read, we have comments to be put up, we have instagram pictures to put and heart, we have jokes to share and we have people to chat with.
And here I was sitting alone on an afternoon with no such tools at disposal.
And I felt a different fear for the first time.
It was fear of being alone. It was fear of confronting your own thoughts and guilt. Fear of really reflecting on your actions, thoughts and life.
And, I realized that I never really do this. I never actually sit down and just spend some time with myself, in solitude. I never go for walks alone and just be with my thoughts.
And, I realized why. Because, it’s scary.
It was always easier for me, the moment I was left alone to take out the mobile and distract myself.
To send Hi to random groups and people, to see photos on Instagram, to take pictures, to share a status, to read facebook updates.
It’s easier. Much easier than just sitting in solitude. To confront your fears, doubts. To confront your life and thoughts. That’ll are tough. And really they are.
This post is not a technological rant of how Social Media is destroying and all that. Maybe it is or maybe it is not. Who am I to tell? I use it as much.
No, the point here is that in this hyper-connected world, we’re ignoring the power of solitude.
To curl up with a book and a good novel, to go alone on walks, to listen to music, to sit in front of sea and beaches and just stare into the horizon.
To really go deep into our thoughts and life. To reflect on our actions. To listen to the lone voice of intuition which gets subsided in the hyper-connectivity and chaos, we prefer.
To really think.
To really reflect, a space to create, a space to think, to unwind, to refuel.
To spend time with your own, to understand your actions and to ponder over thoughts.
And contrary to belief, solitude doesn’t equal lonely. No one is asking you to renunciate everything and become a monk. No one is even asking you to pack your bags and go to Everest.
No, don’t get me wrong. I love spending time with people, I love. Family and friends. And for that even strangers.
But we need to recharge on several occasions. We need to refuel.
And to your surprise, you might just become more positive and more real and understanding in your relations with people.
How will you have a healthy relationship with people if you don’t have it with yourself?
Disconnect with technology for sometime. Shut off your computer and Internet and phone.
Trust me, nothing would happen within the time that would collapse your life.
Just use some amount of time to communicate with yourself, to be alone and in solitude.
Go for a walk. Curl up with a novel. Sit by the beach. Sit by the sea. Meditate. Listen to Music. Contemplate your actions. Think about your learnings. Write. Paint. Sing. Dance.
But be in solitude. It might be scary at first. You’ll feel the urge to pick up your phone and start typing or send hi to the first person in contact list or see photos. Or update a status.
But don’t. Resist it. Stop it. Seriously, how will you hide things from yourself? Or rather for how long?
Confront the fears. Confront the demons. Confront the guilt.
Let it out in your thoughts. Let it vent. Let it get out of the system.
Listen to yourself. Be with yourself. The most inner of your being.
Do it everyday. Even for 5 minutes but do it. Just be with yourself.
You’ll feel more positive, you’ll feel more confident about yourself.
You’ll be able to create more. The deepest of ideas and thoughts will come out.
You’ll feel positive which in-turn would improve your life and your relations with others.
Win-win situation, I would say.
Oh, continuing the story.
I almost sat outside in the balcony for 3 hours, in solitude. And, I confronted a lot of things, lot of fears. And reflected a lot.
It was scary at first. But one of the most worthwhile three hours of my life. And they’ll remain so.
And those 3 hours created one of best things I have ever done, the little blog known as That Indian Minimalist.
Who knows what you might create?
Go now. Take some time out. A cup of coffee and a novel forms a good start, if you ask me. Also, a walk around in the night.
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