10 Choices You will not Regret.

minimalism, regrets, guilt, choices, Hardik Nagar, Minimalism and India, minimalist in India

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I believe life is this whole sequence of choices one make.

Good choices, bad choices and few horrible choices, here and there.

And some choices end up having more impact than the others would have.

Regret is something we all go through. Perhaps in more than one way and about more than one choice. Apart from the horrible choices, there are also choices we are thankful for and choices that always leave you with a smile on your face.

Brew a coffee. Sit and relax because we’re going to go through all such choices that I believe none of us will ever regret:

  1. The Choice of Honesty: Being honest. Honest about how you feel, honest about what you feel, no sweet-coating, no sugary lies. Oh, it is difficult. People will hate you for it, will run away from you and will perhaps stop talking with you for you cannot praise them falsely. Yet, be honest, be honest to the point where your words become the word. Lying is a tiring process and drains much of your strength. Honesty is simple, difficult but simple.
  2. The Choice of Empathy and Compassion: Can I be completely honest with you? Everyone is terribly broken. Every single one of us. We have our fears, insecurities and demons to deal with. Honesty has down-effects of maybe converting you into an arrogant prick. This choice will keep that side-effect in check. You have your battles and they have theirs. And the only solution is to listen and participate in each other’s fight in whatever way we can, to ease the pain, to love.
  3. The Choice of Being Okay: It is all good to not settle for mediocrity, to aim for excellence. But you will be sad often for no apparent reason, you will fail, you will be broke and your heart will get broken umpteen number of times and most likely you won’t be okay, many times. Life is not all fairies, rainbows and unicorns and that’s how it is. So sometimes being okay with not being okay makes a crucial part of how we grow and what we become.
  4. The Choice of Letting Go: Can you let go? Let go of the things you can’t control, let go of the emotions that are bringing you down, let go of the relations that are not just working out and most importantly, to let go of people? On this choice, your happiness quotient depends. This is perhaps the most crucial choice of all. Think about it: What all are you willing to let go?
  5. The Choice of Acceptance: I love deep conversations and I do it often and with different people. You know the reason why most of them are not happy? They can’t accept things. Accept that the relation was not probably meant to be. Accept that the situation is horrible and you just can’t ignore it. Accept that you have made a mistake and take accountability of it. And most importantly, accept yourself as a person with the flaws, blemishes and ugliness.
  6. The Choice of Genuine Connections: Whatever connections you have, make them genuine. Have few, that is fine but have genuine connections. The lure of instant connect might seem appealing but eventually it will wore off and you will feel terrible. Aim for genuine connections, genuine and real connections. That’s the only real way of knowing people.
  7. The Choice of Humility and Curiousness: The amount of time we bullshit ourselves by making ourselves the center of the entire universe and thinking from that point of view is staggering. Humility is the key to growth and also the breeding ground for curiousness. Be curious, explore and be humble. And as soon as you feel you’re smartest person in the room, change the room.
  8. The Choice of Choosing:  Choose your own path. You’re different from others but similar at the same time. That’s one of the most beautiful as well as fucked up irony there is in this universe. For the same part, we have compassion and empathy but for the different part you must choose how you want to live your own life, in your own way and with words like success and happiness defined in your own context.
  9. The Choice of Less:  Choose less. Less complaining. Less drama. Less bullshit. Less materialism. Less superfluous stuff. Less pretension. Less everything. The power of less goes beyond what you and I can imagine. It is beautiful what it can do for you: physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Focus on less but superior. Less but efficient. Less but quality. Less but enough.
  10. The Choice of No Regret: There will be things in your life that may seem like a regret. But wear them like a scar or a badly knitted tattoo on your body, you will eventually make peace with it and in more ways than you can imagine it will make you who you have become. Dwelling on the past is boring. Each choice is a checkpoint and life is marathon so although, you don’t have to run or come first but each of the checkpoints matter if you want to finish it.

These are the 10 choices. 10 choices, I believe if we all choose, the world in totality will be such a beautiful place.

Have I mastered them all? No, not at all.

But I have chosen them and I will continue to work on them, make mistakes, learn, fall and then be what I have to be.

The key thing is to choose.

So choose.

Oh and while you’re at choosing, choose to fly.

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Minimalism- 5 must know things about emotions.

“One thing you can’t hide – is when you’re crippled inside.” 
― John Lennon

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Emotions.

They play such a major role in our life. Everything we do. Everything we did. Everything we will do.

All of these will be governed by this one word: Emotions.

Oh, it will impact your life. In a major manner. Now, then, forever.

That’s the bad part. 

The good part however is that you get to choose the impact, they’ll have.

Yes, you heard it right. Whatever you were fed, taught and made realized about emotions not being in your control and other such mystical things were wrong.

You’ve been misled in major ways.

Emotional wellness is crucial for a happy, content life.

Again, there is no point in cleaning your closet and desk, if you still are in an emotional turmoil. Sure, those things might help you de-clutter some of your thoughts. But they won’t eradicate the discontent and unhappiness completely.

Minimalism is all about choosing consciously. Everything. Physical, emotional and spiritual.

People have realized. People have learnt. That like majority or rather everything in your life the state of emotional wellness too is a matter of choice.

Yes, you heard it right.

Choice.

Like everything else, you will have to choose how you deal with your emotions. You’ve to choose what status you give them. And you’ve to choose which emotions impact you and which don’t.

Ahead lies 5 things, I have learnt. I have realized. About emotions. Over the years of exploration. Of life and of Minimalism.

These are hard to implement. I am still to implement themselves myself fully.

But again it is a journey. Even if you take one step, it still will bring you closer to destiny.

Similarly, even if you try to implement them in some manner, they’ll bring about change.

Change of good.

Change of contentment.

Change of happiness.

5 things you must know about Emotions- 

  • Choices and Reactions- 

    I can’t emphasis on this one enough. Choice. Emotions are a matter of choice.

    The emotions you choose to react on and the emotions you don’t. The emotions you choose to let affect you and emotions you don’t let affect yourself.

    Choice.

    If you feel any contrary, remind yourself of the countless times when you chose to not react to a particular emotion or when you did. Consciously.

    Emotions are not mystical phenomenon. They can be chosen. They’re your emotions in the end. Difficult to do but really a key and the first step.

    Choose happiness over sadness. Choose empathy over anger.

    Choose consciously.

    Just try it. You’ll see the difference.

  • Stop being judgmental

    Don’t judge your emotions. Don’t hate yourself for feeling the way you do.

    Sometimes, you cannot control them. You cannot. It is your sub-conscious mind at play.

    But you don’t need to feel guilty. Or beat yourself up for feeling the way you do.

    Instead, try to understand why you’re feeling this way. Why exactly?

    If you judge your own emotions, you’re creating too much guilt and stress and signs of depression. Don’t do that.

    Just understand why you are feeling the way you’re feeling. Then, you can work on it. Or not. But first, understand. Not judge. Understand.

  • Facing your emotions

    I used to run away from my emotions. It seems a viable and easy option for short-run. You might feel good also. But on the long run, it will kill you.

    Always remember- even if you ignore your emotions for a while. Or if you just run away. Your emotions doesn’t stop being. They are there lurking and multiplying. And one day at the right cue, they will burst. Gripping you like never before.

    Instead, face your emotions now. There is a reason for existence of every single of your emotion. Face them. Try to understand them. Try to find a solution for them.

    Do whatever. Just don’t run away. That is the worse thing you can do to yourself.

    They always come back. In one form or another. And always with a stronger force than previous time.

    Be kind to yourself, please. Don’t run. Face it.

  • Seeing Emotions as an External Force-

    This is more of a hack.

    Remember the last time you were extremely angry? You felt like killing someone with your mind raging and teeth biting. I am sure you do.

    Do you feel in the exact same way as of now? Probably not. Emotions will come and pass. Different emotions at different times.

    See them as external forces. You’re not always angry. You’re not always irritated. You’re not always feeling guilty. As a person, you’re not those emotions. Like your eyes and nose, they’re not always a part of you.

    So see them as external factors. That will help in two ways.

    One, when they do come, you can choose to react or not. Or how exactly they’ll affect. You know they will stay with you only as long as you wish to.

    So choose happiness. And stray away anger. And similar stuff.

    Two, you’ll realize that you and your emotions are two separate things.

    Observe them. Understand why they affect you. If they are good emotions, let them stay. If they are bad, strip them away.

    You’re never your emotions. They impact you. But only as much as you let them. No less, no more.

  • Take Control

    In the end, everything boils down to this. To take control. To live consciously. To not live on auto-pilot mode.

    Take control of your emotions. Don’t say to yourself and or others that you don’t have control over your emotions. That’s not good. Never good.

    All the times, you go into depression. You choose to do so. All the times, you cry and be angry and break things. You choose to do so. And if you feel you’re always sad or discontent or angry or irritated, realize that you’re choosing that.

    You’re choosing that over being happy and content. You’re choosing. You’re letting emotions- an external force, take control of your life.

    Snap out. Take control. Live consciously.

These are just some things.

5 things.

You may already know some. If you do, that’s great. Time to implement.

Or you’re hearing such bizarre, according to you, ideas for the first time. No, really. They are not. Give it a shot. Give it time and you’ll realize why. 1 month, to be precise.

Have 1 month for yourself, don’t you?

Again the key is to do. To do. Not just to take inspiration and sit.

Sitting time, with coffee and 8 minutes, ends now.

Time to change.

Go change your life. I dare you.

Let me know via comments, what you feel about emotions and emotional wellness?

*Part of the, The Minimalist Thursday Series