“One thing you can’t hide – is when you’re crippled inside.”
― John Lennon
They play such a major role in our life. Everything we do. Everything we did. Everything we will do.
All of these will be governed by this one word: Emotions.
Oh, it will impact your life. In a major manner. Now, then, forever.
That’s the bad part.
The good part however is that you get to choose the impact, they’ll have.
Yes, you heard it right. Whatever you were fed, taught and made realized about emotions not being in your control and other such mystical things were wrong.
You’ve been misled in major ways.
Emotional wellness is crucial for a happy, content life.
Again, there is no point in cleaning your closet and desk, if you still are in an emotional turmoil. Sure, those things might help you de-clutter some of your thoughts. But they won’t eradicate the discontent and unhappiness completely.
Minimalism is all about choosing consciously. Everything. Physical, emotional and spiritual.
People have realized. People have learnt. That like majority or rather everything in your life the state of emotional wellness too is a matter of choice.
Yes, you heard it right.
Like everything else, you will have to choose how you deal with your emotions. You’ve to choose what status you give them. And you’ve to choose which emotions impact you and which don’t.
Ahead lies 5 things, I have learnt. I have realized. About emotions. Over the years of exploration. Of life and of Minimalism.
These are hard to implement. I am still to implement themselves myself fully.
But again it is a journey. Even if you take one step, it still will bring you closer to destiny.
Similarly, even if you try to implement them in some manner, they’ll bring about change.
Change of good.
Change of contentment.
Change of happiness.
5 things you must know about Emotions-
- Choices and Reactions-
I can’t emphasis on this one enough. Choice. Emotions are a matter of choice.
The emotions you choose to react on and the emotions you don’t. The emotions you choose to let affect you and emotions you don’t let affect yourself.
If you feel any contrary, remind yourself of the countless times when you chose to not react to a particular emotion or when you did. Consciously.
Emotions are not mystical phenomenon. They can be chosen. They’re your emotions in the end. Difficult to do but really a key and the first step.
Choose happiness over sadness. Choose empathy over anger.
Just try it. You’ll see the difference.
- Stop being judgmental
Don’t judge your emotions. Don’t hate yourself for feeling the way you do.
Sometimes, you cannot control them. You cannot. It is your sub-conscious mind at play.
But you don’t need to feel guilty. Or beat yourself up for feeling the way you do.
Instead, try to understand why you’re feeling this way. Why exactly?
If you judge your own emotions, you’re creating too much guilt and stress and signs of depression. Don’t do that.
Just understand why you are feeling the way you’re feeling. Then, you can work on it. Or not. But first, understand. Not judge. Understand.
- Facing your emotions
I used to run away from my emotions. It seems a viable and easy option for short-run. You might feel good also. But on the long run, it will kill you.
Always remember- even if you ignore your emotions for a while. Or if you just run away. Your emotions doesn’t stop being. They are there lurking and multiplying. And one day at the right cue, they will burst. Gripping you like never before.
Instead, face your emotions now. There is a reason for existence of every single of your emotion. Face them. Try to understand them. Try to find a solution for them.
Do whatever. Just don’t run away. That is the worse thing you can do to yourself.
They always come back. In one form or another. And always with a stronger force than previous time.
Be kind to yourself, please. Don’t run. Face it.
- Seeing Emotions as an External Force-
This is more of a hack.
Remember the last time you were extremely angry? You felt like killing someone with your mind raging and teeth biting. I am sure you do.
Do you feel in the exact same way as of now? Probably not. Emotions will come and pass. Different emotions at different times.
See them as external forces. You’re not always angry. You’re not always irritated. You’re not always feeling guilty. As a person, you’re not those emotions. Like your eyes and nose, they’re not always a part of you.
So see them as external factors. That will help in two ways.
One, when they do come, you can choose to react or not. Or how exactly they’ll affect. You know they will stay with you only as long as you wish to.
So choose happiness. And stray away anger. And similar stuff.
Two, you’ll realize that you and your emotions are two separate things.
Observe them. Understand why they affect you. If they are good emotions, let them stay. If they are bad, strip them away.
You’re never your emotions. They impact you. But only as much as you let them. No less, no more.
- Take Control
In the end, everything boils down to this. To take control. To live consciously. To not live on auto-pilot mode.
Take control of your emotions. Don’t say to yourself and or others that you don’t have control over your emotions. That’s not good. Never good.
All the times, you go into depression. You choose to do so. All the times, you cry and be angry and break things. You choose to do so. And if you feel you’re always sad or discontent or angry or irritated, realize that you’re choosing that.
You’re choosing that over being happy and content. You’re choosing. You’re letting emotions- an external force, take control of your life.
Snap out. Take control. Live consciously.
These are just some things.
You may already know some. If you do, that’s great. Time to implement.
Or you’re hearing such bizarre, according to you, ideas for the first time. No, really. They are not. Give it a shot. Give it time and you’ll realize why. 1 month, to be precise.
Have 1 month for yourself, don’t you?
Again the key is to do. To do. Not just to take inspiration and sit.
Sitting time, with coffee and 8 minutes, ends now.
Time to change.
Go change your life. I dare you.
Let me know via comments, what you feel about emotions and emotional wellness?
*Part of the, The Minimalist Thursday Series